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One of the key points to remember when you're planning a funeral for a family member who has passed away is that you can do virtually anything to honor the person's memory. An idea that some families pursue is to organize a funeral tea — which can take place in lieu of a traditional funeral service or in addition to it. While there are many locations to consider for the funeral tea, it's often a good idea to do so at the funeral home itself. Staff can set up one of the home's rooms, creating a cozy and welcoming environment for those who will be attending to remember your loved one. Here are some tips for planning a funeral tea.
Consider Offering Invitations
While there's nothing wrong with a funeral tea that a large crowd of people attend, this scenario may lack the intimacy that you desire — and that perhaps would have best suited the person who has passed away. Some families who plan funeral teas choose to extend invitations to the event, rather than advertise it widely. You don't need to worry about drafting up formal invitations and distributing them in the mail; after all, there may not be time. Instead, phone calls, emails, or text messages can be suitable for letting the desired attendees know about the event.
Set The Room Up Properly
In order to create an intimate environment, have a plan on how you'll have the room set up. One idea is to have several round tables that will accommodate four or five people each, as well as a longer table that will hold the refreshments. People can come in, exchange greetings with you and offer their sympathy, and then visit the refreshments table to get a cup of tea or coffee and a snack such as a baked good or a sandwich. After, they'll take a seat at one of the round tables, and you can circulate throughout the room and spend a few minutes at each table.
Have Some Remarks
You don't necessarily have to have a formal service at the funeral tea like you might have at a funeral service. However, it can be nice to offer some remarks either shortly after the start of the tea or toward its conclusion. The remarks can be simple — for example, you can thank the people for attending, share a couple short memories about your deceased family member, and even explain why you decided to organize a funeral tea instead of a traditional service.
Contact funeral homes like Maham Funeral Home to see what they can accommodate.