Hi everyone, my name is AnaMae Merton. I recently lost my birth parents during a heavy storm. Their deaths left me reeling, though we were not very close. Furthermore, I was the only surviving kin, so it was my job to arrange the funerals for both of them. The funeral arrangement process was incredibly difficult without knowing much about their personalities or passions. I struggled to find the best songs, outfits, caskets, burial sites and flowers. Luckily, the funeral director helped me identify suitable options for my birth parents' funerals. I hope to help people understand all of the different funeral arrangement options available today. Please visit my site anytime to learn more.
Planning a funeral for a baby is one of the most traumatic experiences that parents have to go through. It is even harder when this painful moment comes from a stillbirth. You are going to always wonder what could have been. It means not hearing your child's first cry and missing out on all the milestone moments.
However, you should enlist as much help as possible as you honor your baby. Read on to find out how to plan a homecoming service for an infant.
You are going through the grieving process, which makes it hard to concentrate on the planning. Many hospitals offer to arrange a cremation, burial, or funeral free of charge. You should ask you local hospitals about your options. If the hospital does offer free funeral services, then they will do the paperwork and the decision making. You may find that your options are limited.
Talk To A Funeral Director
If the hospitals do not provide burial services, then you have to make arrangements. You will still get support from the staff by going through a funeral home. Many parents of a stillborn have either a chapel or graveside service. You have to consider your religion and beliefs when deciding on the best way to honor your baby.
When planning a burial, a lot of steps go into the service. You have to pick out a burial plot, a casket, and a headstone and decide on having a wake. Most parents choose to have a basic ceremony. A pastor would reside over the service and maybe have someone sing a song. It is something that you would want to talk about with your family.
Choose An Outfit
Many parents want to bury their baby in something special. A nightgown is a common outfit of choice. It appears that your baby is sleeping. You might want to include a teddy bear as a sentimental touch. However, you have the option of choosing an outfit for your baby.
You may also want to ask family members to wear the same color to the service. For example, if your baby was a girl, then you would ask everyone to wear something with pink. The unity of wearing pink honors your baby and shows the loved ones as a unit.
After the funeral is over, you need to concentrate on grieving. You will never get over your baby, but you have to learn to live with it.